I was planning to do readings about my research and fix my model. But apparently I’m worried about ‘Ain not talking until now. I’ve been browsing through posts and blogs about late talkers, (even autism!! –> to make sure I rule in all possibilities) and I’m not sure if I’m worrying too much, or I can step aside and let nature to do its course in this few months provided there’s intervention from me.
I’m not sure where to start in diagnosing her problem myself as I am not a paed, and I’m just a non practicing vet doing models. So i’m using some leftover skills I’ve got to probably realized she did have her milestones. Maybe to jot down some of the ability she had, whatever things that I could think of to think the next step I can do as parent.
There’s few things they wrote about late talker. The worst is autism (but its not the end of this world), the least scary is my daughter might just be too lazy to speak. There’s also hearing disability, which I’m sure hers is ok for she had the test when she was born and she passed.
I’m not going for the worst scenario, I’m leaving it to the expert as I’m going to find help later. But I’m going to focus for what I can do, maybe change the way I communicate to her. It’s because I started to feel weird about her not to communicate as it should be for her age.
She was able to say mama, abah months ago which dissapear suddenly. She also said abang but it did disappeared. She started to watch singing dvds since she was small and was able to sing full song, each and every song in the dvds. She can say ABC until z and count 1 until 10 on her fingers. She can recognize a cat, as we have black robotic cat in the house. When she saw a real one, she did said meow. She did recognize her favourite cartoon character, ABC and 123 at shops. I taught a word, fish when we saw one at a restaurant, and she said it again as she saw the fish. When we say, jom tukar pampers, she knows that we will undress her and she will allow that happily. It’s always easy to introduce her to new things like riding on a bike, walking while holding our hands and stop milking at night. But she hates brushing her teeth and she hates sudden change.
She do not want to say susu (milk) or ask for it unless when she sees it. She points fingers to things she like and anxiously babbling in words I do not understand. If she like it so much, she can sound as if she is singing happily. She is strictly following her schedule; nap time, eating time. She can sit on the stroller for a long time, provided we are walking. She can sit on the chairs for hours with only watching dvd. So its quite easy to control her. However, I’m not sure if thats normal now.
I always knew what she wants, not really fussy of her not saying what she wants. Further, I’m always in busy mode last year and I left everything to her dad, who is always sitting on his chair doing his computer stuff. I realize I didn’t show much affection in her, just popped out from nowhere and sad hi. I’ve never tried talking to her or seriously showing her how to communicate. Both of us like her being silent, and I guess failed to stimulate her in talking.
I’m not sure how long will it take to stimulate her, but I guess it’s worth trying and realize what we did wrong. I’m starting out efficiently playing session with talking and eye contact, reading a book which she always loveeee to do, and started two way communication with her. I’m going to search for a school so that she can make friends and learn about communication skills and maybe get help about speech delay from a speacialist.
Right now, my du’a is that she will grow as a healthy and happy child.
And whatever it is, she will always have my love and support! Mama loves you.